Monday, December 26, 2011

'20 20' ABC News.on Gendercide in India

I watched this episode a couple Friday night ago and the images and stories that I heard and saw are still haunting me. So many emotions well up within me when I consider the fact that 50,000 female unborn children are being aborted EVERY month in India.  It is estimated that since 1980 approx. 40 million girls are missing in India due to sex selected abortions, neglect, or murder.  To kill a baby because she is a girl is mind boggling to me and makes me irate, disgusted, sad, and broken hearted to name a few.  What happened to God created ALL people equal?

What is shocking to me is that this is such a common practice in India and is widely accepted.  There seems to be NO enforcement of the current laws to prevent the abortion of a baby simply because it is a girl.  It breaks my heart to see the look on the face of the relative who holds the baby who was just born after she discovers it is a girl.  She doesn't have to say a word, her face says it all....disappointment, sadness, etc.  I understand that girls cost a family a lot of money when it comes time to marry, but to have money (the dowry) be the motivation to kill that child is up hauling.  So sad that money has taken a higher place than a human life that God created!

In part 2 of the video below I was shocked as I watched the undercover sting happen and the doctor reports with great sadness that the baby is a girl and that the best option would be to abort the baby. Since the mother is so far along they will not be able to perform an abortion, but for more money he will give her drugs to induce a miscarriage.  To kill this baby girl it will cost between 60,000 to 70,000 rupees ($1,114 to 1,300 US dollars).   The entire scene plays out as such a common practice, which it is, and no emotion attached to what is being kill a precious baby!  Thankfully these two doctors faced charges, but this appears to be a rare occurrence.

In the second video I was encouraged to see so many happy little girls safe in the Unique Home.  I am so thankful for homes and orphanages in India that give a mother who makes the choice to carry her baby girl to term the option of having a safe and loving place for that baby to go if they are not able to care for her.  I find it inspiring how as an orphan herself she established this home to love and protect these girls.  She knows all too well what each of these girls have faced.  To think that most of these children arrive "half dead" because of the drugs the mother has been given to try to kill them is heart crushing.  What a blessing it is to have a women who lives her life bringing these girls back to life and giving them the love and respect they deserve.  It is understandable why she doesn't allow the children to be adopted out, because she doesn't want the possibility of anything more harmful to happen to these girls.  It thrills me that she teaches the girl their value and that they have a choice.  It is sickening to think that thousands of girls in India are shown from birth (if they even make it that far) and throughout their life that they have no value and are only good for producing a boy child for a man. It is so easy living in America to take for granted all the rights women have compared to our fellow women around the world.

This episode really touched my heart, because we have adopted a baby girl from India.   I am so thankful  to our daughter's birth mother and father.  They chose LIFE for their baby!  I don't have all the details or if they knew they were having a girl prior to birth, but I know that this beautiful women carried her baby to term and then after delivery made the decision to relinquish her rights to her precious baby for whatever reason.  This speaks volumes to me!  Whether gender played a role in her decision I do not know, but she chose life for her baby and as a result I have been blessed with a beautiful, joyful, and full of life baby girl.  For this I will be forever grateful.

After seeing a 20/20 episode like this, reading articles and books, and hearing testimony from workers in country who face this epidemic daily, it makes me want to adopt all the little girls from India. Since this is impossible, I pray for their safety and that some how they can hear of God's love for them and how valued and important they truly are.

Friday, December 16, 2011

Adoption Today Magazine

Look who made it on the front cover of the December issue of Adoption Today Magazine. A few months back our adoption agency sent out an email asking for photos for the magazine. We decided to send in a few and next thing we know Alesha is selected for the front cover. We are excited that the magazine and our agency gave us this opportunity. Alesha's daddy took the photo, too. He has a gift of caputuring emotion and personality.


Thursday, December 08, 2011

Let the Christmas Season Begin.

It is tradition at our home to put up the Christmas tree and decorate the day after Thanksgiving.  The boys were SO excited to decorate this year.  As they went to sleep on Thanksgiving night they confirmed that we were indeed putting the tree up the  next day :-)  Since we have allergies to fresh cut Christmas trees we invested in a fake tree a number of years ago and this helps in making sure that putting the Christmas tree up on a specific day happens without an issue.

Since the boys were little they have helped me put up the tree and all the decoration.  Every year they have taken on more of the set-up on their own.  The last 2 years they have completely set up the tree, put on the lights, decorations, and decorated the inside and outside of our home.  I am impressed to say the least.  The only sad part is that I miss going through each decoration one by one and remembering where it came from and what the significance is.  Now I just travel down memory lane as I gaze upon the beautiful tree my boys set up and when it comes time to pack the tree away.

Two things that are amazing to me -

1.  My boys clean up their mess when they are done decorating.  They put everything back where it goes and all that is left is a home transformed into a beautiful Christmas scene.

2.  Alesha, does not touch the tree or anything on it.  She loves to gaze at the lights and I find her standing looking at all the decorations, but she never touches them.  When my boys were little, this was NOT the case :-)

*apparently I forgot to turn these pics before I saved them and blogger won't post them the correct way.  Sorry you will just have to tilt your head for most of these :-)
Tree already assembled.  This didn't take long!

Now onto the lights and decorations

The finished product.  I did not lift a finger!

 When I was younger a friend of our family gave me the stocking below.  I thought it was cute so when I got married I made one for Darin, too.  As you can see I have added one with every child.  Last year I didn't get Alesha's stocking done before Christmas.  I was determined this year to have it completed and I finally did it.  Each of the kid's stockings represent what they they liked when they were young.  Since Alesha listens to music all day every day and sings constantly I thought this would be a good fit for her.

Looks better when it is really dark.  They have added some lights since this photos was taken.

Wednesday, December 07, 2011

We have a TEENAGER in the house!!!

Our oldest son, Martin, turned 13 years old on November 6th!  I am still coming to grips with having a TEENAGER in the house!  Still not sure how this happened so quickly.  It seems like yesterday I was in the hospital holding him right after delivery.  Martin we are proud of the young man you have become.  You are a passionate, kind, talented, creative, and loving person who is a follower of Christ.  We love you very much!  Happy Birthday, son.

 Martin, decided to have his party at SkyHigh Sports this year.  The boys jumped for an hour after school then we came home for pizza, pop, ice cream cake, and more games.  It is crazy how much energy 6 middle school boys have and how much noise they can produce.  LOL.
Exhausted after jumping for a solid hour!
Playing dodge ball for an hour straight.

The pizza feast.  These boys can sure eat!

Tuesday, December 06, 2011

October Update

We took our annual trip to our local pumpkin patch.  It was a beautiful day to take the tractor ride down to the patch to find the perfect pumpkin.

 Alesha, was a lady bug this year for Halloween.  Daddy took some fantastic pictures of her in his new photo studio!

We visited Alesha's great grandma at her assisted living home.  She sure brought a lot of smiles to the faces of the elderly living there.
The pumpkins - Alesha liked to just carry her around, so we didn't carve it this year.
 Alesha just finished a tumble class at the local recreation center.  She really enjoyed it.

I looked high and low for a Diwali festival in our area to attend, but could not find one.  So I decided to cook a bunch of Indian food and invite our neighbors over to share in the feast.  Our neighbors are from Tibet and lived in India for several years so they are familiar with the holiday and gave us some interesting background and information.  As you can see I did not decorate with lights or even a festive table cloth for that matter.  Maybe next year I will be more on the ball.  Alesha still seems to be oblivious to holidays at this point, so I guess I am not leaving any major scars :-)